Wedding Planning Tips from the Heart

Tips, Advice for Wedding Planning

Wedding planning can be stressful, I know, because I’ve photographed more than 500 of them and I can see it on the couples faces. I also have first hand experience being on the other side of the camera, because I helped plan my own, and I was just like you, analyzing budgets, making sleeping arrangements for the out of town guests, interviewing vendors, making seating charts, picking out dance music, going over vows, picking out wedding bands, planning the rehearsal dinner and yes, even bickering with my fiance. I found my own wedding planning to be expensive and tiresome to say the least, taxing me financially, emotionally and spiritually.

wedding planning, planning a wedding, tips and advice, stressfulHowever, I gotta admit that all our hard work and long hours paid off. Our wedding was perfect and looking back, there isn’t one thing that I would change about it. We invited the perfect amount of guests, we picked a fabulous beach front location for our ceremony and reception, our photographer was easy to work with and captured some really great shots, everyone enjoyed themselves dancing and their dinners were cooked to perfection. I even had a custom designed wedding cake flown all the way in from New York for my wife which survived a 2 hour plane ride, being knocked over in the Xray machine and a 90 mile car ride in 101 degree heat. So all things considered, it was perfect. My point of view is of course my point of view, and sadly enough, there are young couples that forget what truly matters most and that’s of course LOVE. They get caught up in all the wedding planning and forget to remember to remember what brought them here in the first place, each other!

Planning a wedding is stressful, yes, but you shouldn’t let it get you to the point where it consumes your identity or your soul. It’s easy to get caught up in the hustle and bustle of planning a wedding;  I get that. It’s easy to loose control. It’s easy to get out of control, I get that too. Look at TLC’s Bridezilla’s for example. Those women are so consumed by the idea of the perfect wedding day that they loose all sense of sensibility, grace and social behavior. Ouch Right?

I don’t believe weddings shouldn’t be filled with drama. I think they’re a time for you to talk about old memories whilst making new ones, a time for celebration, love, romance and laughter;  not drunken, shameful debacles. My opinion, if you think a guest might get our of control, be proactive instead of reactive and save yourself the headache. Don’t invite them.

There’s a saying that goes like this, “Those that matter won’t mind and those that mind don’t matter.”

custom designed wedding cake Corsino Cakes in Wappingers FallsMy advise: we all have limitations, financially, spiritually and emotionally, don’t go beyond yours; remember to love the idea of getting married for it’s true core value which is that you’re spending the rest of your life with the one person you can’t live without; weddings can be stressful by nature so start your wedding planning early rather than at the last minute; don’t worry about the weather, your wedding day will be filled with people who love and care for you, and that would do anything to make you happy, but none of them can control the weather and neither can you, so leave that up to God; remember to LOVE one another, the word marriage is a sentence, perhaps even a book, you’ll have to work at, and it all starts now.

Life is short. Live. Love. Laugh as often as you can. Surround yourself with good company and good food.

Good Wedding Planning Starts Here.

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